The marriage of daughters of the United States President George W. Bush and Kerala State Secretary of Communist Party of India (Marxist) Pinarai Vijayan stood out by their striking contrasts. The wedding of the daughters of the staunch capitalist and avowed communist, however, had at least one thing in common— both were on the same day (May 10, 2008).
The invitees to Vijayan’s daughter’s wedding numbered hundreds while those to the Jenna Bush’s marriage were just 200.There were not many VIPs at Bush marriage held at private residence in Texas, while names of VIPs at Veena’s had to be spread across two newspaper columns (see Mathrubhoomi report).
The Media were not invited to Jenna’s marriage. But all leading lights of the Malayalam media were present at the wedding of Vijayan’s daughter. (As a politician, Bush did not fail to tap the publicity potential. Wedding plans were leaked out to the Press in bits and pieces, building up the tempo.) While the venue of the former’s marriage was in the middle of a 1600-acre family farm, the latter’s been at a public place— a government-owned open-air auditorium rented out for the reception.
Cultural differences account for some of the contrast. While marriage is more of a personal-family affair in the United States, it is very much a family-community affair in Kerala. The family plays important roles in fixing marriages. If near and dear ones are not invited, that would lead to grudges. So, CPI (M) leaders often print their invitations to all party men in the party organ! Customs are customs whether you are a capitalist or communist.
At times of scarcity in Kerala, authorities had tried to impose restrictions on the number of invitees to weddings. However, hardly anyone heeded that, especially after fears of enforcement subsided. The State has never been able to enforce prohibition on dowries. It even had a Minister who breached the prohibition on child marriages.
A simple marriage is not in the mindset of the Malayalees. But, the wedding party of Home Minister Kodiyeri Balakrishnan’s son and the bachelors’ party on the previous day with invitees from the Gulf countries invited criticism. Chief Minister V. S. Achuthanandan said after that the party did not encourage luxury. So, Pinarai apparently was being careful– the party was modest.
In olden days, communist leaders made it a point to have their wards married into communist families. There was also reluctance among capitalists to have bonds with communists. This seems to be changing faster than the people of the State are able to tolerate inter-caste marriages. Well, what is the point in speaking communist family ties when you are employed in a multinational company or is a business development manager.
Incidentally, Jenna’s love is an MBA student while she is a teacher.
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Deepika (in Malayalam)
Mathrubhoomi (in Malayalam)